Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Guest Post: A Little Piece of Me





Today I have the fantastic Salena from A Little Piece of Me guest posting here. Salena is seriously wonderful and we bonded so quickly, we have loads in common. She rocks and so does her blog. Go on over and say hi!

She is also doing her first ever giveaway! Yay, seriously exciting. Get your entries in quick.



And while Salena is here, I am hanging at A Little Piece of Me. I'm talking about my fears and I have an awesome giveaway for you all! Come on over and check it out.


Giveaway now closed.

Take it away Salena!
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Hello fans and lovers of And Nothing Else Matters!  I was so excited when Em asked me to be a guest here on her lovely Blog.  The moment I started reading her Blog I instantly related to the words she spoke.  We are similar in many ways and I am inspired and encouraged by her heart.  I am new to this Blog world but she is one of the amazingly beautiful women who have welcomed me with open arms.  Thank you so much Em!


My name is Salena and I Blog over at A Little Piece of Me.  I'm married to Rudy.  We've been married for 14-1/2 years.  I'm a mother of six and a grandmother of three.  I am a stay-at-home mother to my three little girls and they keep me very busy.  I was born and raised on Oahu, Hawaii and I have lived here all my life.

I have been a mother for 26 years.  I say 26 years because I believe we are mothers before we even know our babies are growing inside us. 

I am mommy to:
Ashley (25)
Kapono (23)
Saphire (22)
Aleshanee (6)
Dakota (3)
Hayden (1)

I am grandmother to:
Makana (3)
Aaliyah (2)
Kaenen (2).


I have been a
Teenage mother
Single mother

Mother of...
baby angel in heaven
Every stage through adulthood
TEENAGERS with raging HORMONES!!!!!
drama queen
special needs child
movie star
bride

I am also a mother-in-law and a grandmother.

If I missed anything, I know my kids will read this and set me straight.  =)

You may be surprised to know, when I was a little girl, I NEVER wanted to have kids.  Shocking I know.  I am one that cannot stand pain and I knew I would never be able to go through childbirth.

When I was 15 I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, Ashley.  In all the shock, fear (of my parents), and being disappointed in myself, the one thing I knew is I wanted to keep my baby.  There was not even a hint of doing anything otherwise.  I had my son, Kapono when I was 18 and then my daughter, Saphire at 19.  

Many years in between 16 to be exact
5 years of unexplained secondary infertility
Fertility procedures
Fertility drugs and injections
Surgeries

And a heart breaking missed miscarriage (you can read about it more here) and all that goes along with that we were finally blessed with our daughter, Aleshanee

Then, to our total shock we were eventually blessed with our daughters, Dakota and then Hayden.

All of this, wrapped up in 26 years this December looking back at it all there are some days I wonder how I got here.  When I read this back I am amazed to see how much I have changed, how much God has entrusted me with and how much I am blessed.

People ask me advice all the time and assume I know everything about parenting.  They tell me that I must be a pro at this because I have so many kids and have been a mother for so long.

Here are some things I can share with you
Each child is different
They have a mind of their own
They have different needs and sometimes it happens all at the same time
They need to experience life, good and bad
They cannot be controlled
They need your undivided attention
They need to be heard
They need to be understood
They need for you to be fair to them
They need your protection
They need to feel loved and they need you to express it with words, by physical touch, and by your actions
They need to know you are proud of them
They need your support
They need to know you believe in them

One thing I know for sure we are here for a purpose.  As parents, we want to protect our children.  Naturally we don’t want them to get hurt.  I’m learning that we are to guide them in the right direction but ultimately God is using them for a bigger purpose.  With my older kids, I tried to control their environment and protect them from everything that seemed harmful.  I mean, it seems only natural that a mother would do this.  My kids did not benefit from being protected in that way.  I didn’t step back and allow God to work in their lives in His way.  Don’t get me wrong I believe that HE prevails no matter what I do.  I do however know that I need to do things differently with my younger 3 and ultimately with all of them, including my grandchildren in the future.

I must constantly remind myself that they are here for a greater purpose.  To step back and let them find what it is they are here for.  To trust that the things they are going through, the choices and mistakes they make all lead to God molding them to where they need to be.  When I have this understanding, I am better equipped to love them, believe in them and to support them in their Journey.

What about you?  If you are a mother, what do you know for sure?  Are there changes you need to make?

Thank you for allowing me this time to share my thoughts on being a mother.  I’d love for you to come visit me over at A Little Piece of Me.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Last but not least...

I'm so excited to be doing my first ever giveaway here on And Nothing Else Matters.  I will be giving away 1 ribbon and yarn wristlet to one lucky follower.  This may be used as a bracelet, a key chain, can be tied around a vase, or on your rear view mirror.  These are popular here in Hawaii.  I also make them longer and  they are worn as a Lei around your neck or on your head.



Giveaway Rules

  1. Be a GFC Follower of And Nothing Else Matters =1 entry
  2. Be a GFC Follower of A Little Piece of Me = 1 entry
  3. “Like” And Nothing Else Matters on Facebook = 1 entry
  4. “Like A Little Piece of Me on Facebook = 1 entry
  5. Follow A Little Piece of Me on Twitter = 1 entry
  6. Share about this giveaway on Facebook and/or Tweet about it.  Or Blog about it = 1 entry

Leave a separate comment below for each one you do,
this gives you 6 possible entries.
While you’re at it, leave a comment and say hi.
Giveaway will end in one week from posting date.
Winner will be announced the following day.
Good luck!


All my heart,
Salena

30 comments:

Pidg said...

Haha! I just entered over at Salena's I really should be doing something not fun...then I would feel productive! ;) I follow Salena's blog!

Pidg said...

I follow Em!

Pidg said...

I follow you on Facebook Em!

Pidg said...

I follow Salena on Facebook!

Pidg said...

I follow Salena on Twitter...oh dang the dryer just went off...I'll be productive soon! ;)

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

Loved this post Salena! :)
I'm a follower of ANEM

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I'm a follower of ALPOM

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I like ANEM on FB

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I liked ALPOM on FB

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I follow ALPOM on Twitter! :)

Nay said...

Hi! Pidg sent me:)
I'm the newest follower of ANEM :)

Nay said...

I'm the newest follower of ALPOM!

Nay said...

I like ANEM on FB

Nay said...

I liked ALPOM on FB

Nay said...

I follow you, Miss Salena! (naycover2cover)

Nay said...

I tweeted and shared!

Lisa said...

I am a follower of And Nothing Else Matters!~
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I am a follower of A Little Piece Of Me~!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I "like" And Nothing Else Matters on Facebook!
~lisa @ organized chaos

Lisa said...

I "like" A Little Piece Of Me on Facebook!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I follow A Little Piece Of Me on Twitter!!~
~lisa @ organized chaos

Lacee said...

BEAUTIFUL post!!!! I follow ALPOM :)

Lacee said...

I follow you too Em...MUAH!

Lacee said...

I like ALPOM on fb

Lacee said...

I like ANEM on fb

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

follow and nothing else matters via GFC

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

Follow a little piece of me via GFC

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

follow and nothing else matters on facebook

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

follow a little piece of me on facebook

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

follow a little piece of me on twitter!